Trea Tijmens

Trea Tijmens is a successful matchmaker and award-winning dating expert and coach. Since 2005, Trea successfully helps her select single, divorced and widowed clientèle find love. In this blog she shares dating and relationships tips and advice. Enjoy!

Give Yourself the Gift of Love This Christmas

I love sparkly and shiny things and Christmas is the season for that. I like to put up Christmas lights, light candles and sit by the fireplace way before the Christmas season starts. I used to go pick out a Christmas tree with the kids, take it home, put it up and have the kids help decorate the tree and the rest of the house. We would put on Christmas music and have hot chocolate and homemade cookies.

We spent most Christmases with the French side of the family where our children enjoyed the excitement of getting Christmas presents and delicious Christmas dinners whereas my Dutch family celebrated Christmas as only a religious fest with more sober meals and no presents.

I loved those days when my husband and I would watch with delight as the children woke up on Christmas morning squealing with excitement and disbelief as they found all the presents under the tree.

Spending Christmas as a single person

Christmas is the time of the year you want to spend with loved ones. You have some time off from work and finally have the space and energy to reflect on your life, take stock of the past year and evaluate what you love about your life and what’s missing.

It’s during the holidays when many singles realize that they want to spend next Christmas with someone special and finally commit to take action.

It’s no surprise that the end of the year and beginning of the new year are peak seasons in the dating and matchmaking industry in Switzerland as well as the rest of the world.

Many clients come to me at SuccessMatch tired of spending Christmas alone. They are ready to invest in themselves and their future happiness. Over the years I have received so many holiday cards of them and their families they built thanks to working with me as their dating coach or matchmaker.

My date coaching and mentoring program lasts eight months and 100% of the single clients are dating and 85% are in relationships by the time the program ends!

Even conservatively it is a completely realistic expectation to be in a serious committed relationship by next Christmas if you take action now.

If you’re ready, I’d love to invite you to book a complementary consultation here to learn how I can support you on your journey.

Having this time off is when singles realize that although they want to be spending this time with their loved ones, unless they change something this won’t happen in the future, so now is the time to reach out for support.

Rebecca didn’t want to spend next Christmas alone

A client of mine, Rebecca, explained to me that she knew she had to make love a priority when she thought about what her Christmas looked like in Geneva. As an expat from England, she has absolutely loved making Switzerland her new home. Over the past few years she has grown in her job, made some amazing friends and really created a beautiful home here.

Each year around Christmas though, especially during the pandemic, she’s had time to reflect on the parts of her life that are still missing here. Here’s what her Christmas reality looked like when I met her…

Rebecca goes into the office in the morning just to check on her last two clients and of course no one else is in. On her way home she drops presents off to friends who are celebrating with their families. As kids zoom past, the dog barks and in laws tease each other in the kitchen, her friends insist she comes in, but Rebecca politely declines.

Once home, she gets a phone call from her sister who is kindly planning on coming to visit in a couple of weeks and asks, ‘‘Becks, what can I get you for Christmas? Anything you want me to bring you from home?’’ Rebecca can hear her kids laughing in the background and the doorbell ring as the phone suddenly gets disconnected and her phone buzzes with a message from her sister:

Sorry, I’ve got chaos over here. Will call later. Happy Christmas! xx

Being at home and with time off to reflect on life, these visits and phone conversations make her take stock of what her priorities have been.

She considers her sister’s questions.

What do you want for Christmas?

She looks around at her beautiful apartment full of everything she could have ever wanted. But what is missing? Laughter. Love. Warmth.

She’s created such a great life here, but her house is so incredibly empty, no giggles or teasing in the kitchen.

But this year is different. This year she’s chosen to give herself the gift of love.

Giving yourself the gift of love

After reading about the incredible results that SuccessMatch clients get and a great in-depth consultation with me, she has just signed up for the group coaching program knowing that more likely than not, this time next year she will be spending the holidays with someone she loves.

You can do the same. Give yourself permission to make love a priority and invest in yourself and your future happiness. Make the commitment to not spend another Christmas alone.

Make this year the year that you finally find love.

To give yourself the gift of love this Christmas click for complimentary consultation and don’t let another day go by without getting closer to your goal.

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