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Trea Tijmens

Trea Tijmens is a successful matchmaker and dating coach. Since 2005, Trea has met and helped thousands of single, divorced and widowed professionals. In this blog she shares dating and relationships tips and advice and humor. Enjoy!

Geneva or Zurich singles - Learn how to get lucky in love!

How to get Lucky in Love? - from the CEO of the leading dating agency in Zurich and Geneva.

geneva or zurich singles learn how to get lucky in loveAre you single in Geneva, Zurich, Basel or anywhere else in Switzerland?

Do you believe love should happen by chance?

Do you believe that if it’s meant to happen, it will happen?

When your goal is to find that great partner with whom you can build a fantastic relationship, and yet you are still single and not dating, then ….
you can dream all you want,
you can hope all you want,
you can visualize and manifest all you want,
you can pray all you want, but…..
unless you do, unless you take action, it will NOT happen!

If you don’t change anything, nothing will change.
Let’s claim responsibility for our own success in dating.

I urge all singles I work with in my dating seminars, through my coaching programs, and in fact all singles I encounter; to become proactive in reaching their dating goal!

One of the reactions I regularly hear is;
Well Trea, you say we have to become proactive in finding our partner, but my cousin Suzy, she was single but not even looking for love, and she met her husband by chance, in line at the Qualipet Center in Zurich. Or, my single brother Dave never really dated, and then last winter he sat by chance next to this great woman on the ski lift in Verbier, and now they are engaged!

The question is; was that really chance??

Were Suzy and Dave simply lucky in finding love?

I would like to tell you about a very important concept called “the luck factor”.

Dr. Richard Wiseman, spent years investigating why some people have more luck than others. He wrote a book on the findings called, “The Luck Factor”.

"Luck is not a magical ability or a gift from the gods. Instead, it is a way of thinking and behaving."
Richard Wiseman, PhD

In fact, he argues that only 10 percent of life is truly random.
The remaining 90 percent is "actually defined by the way you think and behave."

"Lucky people create, notice, and act upon the chance opportunities in their lives,"

The great thing is that you can actually train yourself to have more luck in life, and here comes my point as a matchmaker and dating expert; this is the same in LOVE

According to Dr. Wiseman, there are 3 keys to success in increasing your luck:

1             Chance favors the prepared mind
Don't leave chance encounters entirely to chance. Preparing your mind for a certain behavior increases (by as much as 50 %) the chance that you'll pull that behavior off. You basically live and experience something before it actually takes place, so that when it happens, you know how to respond/react.
If you prepare yourself to make the most of chance encounters, good things are waiting to happen all around you.

(You see what you look for and you recognize what you know)

2             Pursue an active life
If you stay home in your apartment every night, how high do you think the chances are for you to have a chance encounter?
Pursue an active life—get out there and do things—and you'll increase the likelihood of good things happening. Make sure that whatever you are doing is providing you opportunities to meet people of the opposite sex!
Should you already be very active in a certain sports club or organization and you never meet anyone there, then change club or organization. Go somewhere new or do something new on a regular basis.


3             Relax.
If you're anxious, stressed, or preoccupied, Wiseman believes you probably won't notice good things waiting to happen. You'll walk right past the man or woman who could have been a great partner or miss an opportunity to speak with someone in a coffee shop. A laid-back attitude can lead to all sorts of possibilities, but you have to be ready to go with the flow.

So in order to get lucky in love, you have to become proactive and give chance and luck a chance.

Coming back to single Suzy who met her partner by chance in line at the Qualipet store in Zurich, and someone’s single brother Dave who met his beautiful fiancé by chance on the ski lift in Verbier…
was that really all chance?

Or, did these singles simply create opportunities, recognize opportunities and act upon opportunities to meet their partner?

I believe they got lucky in love because they gave chance a chance and did those 3 things;

Create, recognize and act upon opportunities to meet your partner.

This is actually my main focus of my coaching programs with Geneva, Basel and Zurich singles.
As a successful dating coach, I want the singles I work with to find that great partner sooner rather than later!
In my date coaching programs, we create as many opportunities to do this as possible, and I help singles all over Switzerland with creating, recognizing and acting on opportunities, and it works!

Conclusion; if you are single and want to get lucky in love too, you need to give chance a chance.
Live an active life, prepare your mind for chance encounters, relax, and… create, recognize and act upon chance encounters.

trea tijmens dating strategy session via skypeNeed support?
Contact me to schedule a first consultation to see if there is a fit.
It does not matter if you are a Geneva, Lausanne, Bern, Basel or Zurich single, I do my singles coaching via Skype with camera.
All my coaching programs are tailor made to your needs.
The below list are examples of some of the things I work on with my single clients;

❤ Identifying your dating goal
❤ Identifying the key criteria your partner must have in order for you to be happy and fulfilled in a long term, committed relationship
❤ Reviewing what you have done so far, what worked, what did not, etc.
❤ Removing all dating obstacles
❤ Setting up a dating plan or strategy
❤ Creating as many targeted opportunities to meet your partner as soon as possible
❤ Providing support setting up online dating profiles and providing online dating guidelines and guidance
❤ Overcoming approach anxiety and meeting singles in real life
❤ Flirting and learning to read body language of the opposite sex
❤ Femininity (looking, feeling and acting feminine)
❤ First date preparation
❤ Helping you keep momentum in the dating process and holding you accountable
❤ Make and keep the dating process fun

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