People often wonder what exactly an elite matchmaker does. In this article, I will give you an inside look into what goes on behind the scenes on a normal Monday and how I’m able to help clients find their success match.
Over the years my routine has changed quite a bit. When I started my company SuccessMatch, I was a mother to three young kids, getting them ready for school, taking them to field hockey practice and competitions, making meals and having family time was a part of daily life. Now that they are young adults and no longer living at home, life looks different. Despite all the changes, I’ve always considered myself incredibly lucky to be able to do something I love so much for a living.
Here’s what a normal Monday looks like:
6:30 am – I always start my day off with a brisk early morning walk, if I don’t do it early, I’ve learned I won’t do it. I get showered and dressed and ready to start my day.
I take the time to get dressed in a way that shows my clients that I care about what I do and take pride in myself. I share this exact sentiment with my clients as they start dating – always show up as the best version of yourself.
8:00 am – I start by going through new emails that have come in and then take a look at my schedule. I like to first plan my day out and then stick to the plan as much as possible even when other things come up as they inevitably will.
9:00 am – I’ll start by looking at feedback from clients who have been on a date over the weekend. I want to find out how their dates went, have a follow-up call to hear in more detail from them what happened during the date, understand what they appreciated about each other, what went well, what could have gone better or differently and whether they would like to see each other again.
I absolutely love to see when they’re both enthusiastic about each other, so I’ll reach out and see if they’d like to go on a second date.
When I start working with gentlemen clients, I spend a full day in their homes so I can get a sense of their routines, values, lifestyle, and habits. The feedback I get from their introductions gives me an invaluable perspective.
11:00 am – I practice some sort of intermittent fasting and so mid-morning I’ll stop for a light breakfast of fruit and yogurt before starting a session with my business coach. I am passionate about what I do and excel at it because I practice what I preach and get extra support where and when I need it from the best resources possible!
12:00 pm – I’ll start to look up potential matches and interview them for my private clients. It takes a lot of work to search, screen and interview candidates to find a potentially compatible match. Sometimes everything is perfect on paper, however in the interviews it turns out that there is something, such as not wanting kids, being a lifelong smoker, religion, different values, etc. that suggests that it will not work out.
So, then it’s back to the drawing board to interview more potential matches for them. In a sense, I go on a lot of “dates” so that my clients won’t have to.
1:00 pm – I cook something fast and simple or go out for a quick bite.
2:00 pm – After lunch, I usually have 50-minute clarity consultations. On an initial consultation, I discover what a new client’s starting point is, what their end goal is, what their needs and expectations are and how I can help them reach their goal of finding the right partner.
We dive into:
- Defining the goal for their relationship and committing to not settle for anything less
- Getting clear on the key qualities they’re looking for in a partner
- Determining how to work on those key qualities in themselves
- Identifying the dealbreakers
- Mapping out the path of how they can reach their goal of finding the right partner.
This exercise alone is key to having success and many clients identify this as a turning point for them in the process.
3:00 pm – I’ll start to look at new leads, schedule new appointments for consultations and meet with my colleague Anka to approve social media posts. Anka is part of my team and is in contact with my female clients in my dating coaching program as well. I meet with her daily so that we are always up to date with all our clients.
While I love being involved in all parts of the business my expertise is in matchmaking and strategic coaching and so that is what I primarily focus on. Anka is our program manager and is also a fantastic sexologist and supports our clients in anything relating to sexuality and intimacy in a relationship.
4:00 pm – I’ll spend some time thinking about my next online workshop. The next one we have coming up for singles is on making a dating review of the year. I’ll be guiding participants towards understanding of what is working (and what is not) in their dating life.
I’m excited because I know how helpful this is going to be for so many singles to start dating again. Soon it is time to start promoting this online workshop.
I’ve built up an enormous network of professional women by being involved in women’s professional events, which have been an incredible resource for me in my matchmaking services.
5:00 pm – Towards the end of my day I do some follow-up calls with past clients and ask them about the status of their relationship because I love ending the day on a high note. Hearing the excited voice of someone telling you that they’re finally with their soulmate is so rewarding and gratifying.
6:00 pm – I either prepare for my dance class that I take three times a week or prepare for group coaching calls that I do every other Monday evening from 7 till 8 pm.
And that’s it! That’s a typical Monday in the life of an elite matchmaker.
I am passionate about my work and take pride in offering you the kind of support that will help you find your partner and finally start the life you’ve always dreamed of.
If you are ready to benefit from having true support and accountability, book a free consultation with me to see if it might be a good fit and if it’s not, I’ll let you know that too, no strings attached.
